Premature Ejaculation: Simple Ways to Gain Control

If you’re frustrated by lasting only a minute or two in bed, you’re not alone. Premature ejaculation (PE) affects many men and can hurt confidence. The good news is that there are easy steps you can try right now to last longer and feel better about sex.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation?

PE usually comes from one of three sources. First, anxiety about performance can make you finish too fast. Second, some men have a naturally sensitive penis or low serotonin levels that speed up climax. Third, medical issues like thyroid problems, prostatitis, or certain medications can play a role. Figuring out which factor fits you helps pick the right fix.

Practical Tips to Delay Ejaculation

1. The start‑stop method. When you feel the urge, pause stimulation for about 30 seconds, then start again. Repeat a few times before allowing climax. Over time you learn to recognize the warning signs.

2. The squeeze technique. Just before you’re about to ejaculate, gently squeeze the head of the penis for a few seconds. The pressure lowers the urge, letting you keep going.

3. Use condoms. A thicker condom reduces sensation, giving you more control. Look for brands labeled “delay” or “extra‑lubricated” for added benefit.

4. Pelvic floor exercises. Tightening the muscles you use to stop urinating, hold for three seconds, then relax. Do 10‑15 reps a day. Stronger muscles help you push back the climax signal.

5. Try topical anesthetics. Creams or sprays with a small amount of lidocaine numb the tip slightly. Apply a thin layer, wait the recommended time, then wash off excess. This can add a minute or two to your time.

6. Talk with your partner. Let them know you’re working on it. When both of you relax and focus on pleasure instead of a timer, anxiety drops and performance improves.

7. Consider short‑term medication. Certain antidepressants (SSRIs) delay ejaculation as a side effect. Some doctors prescribe them off‑label for PE. Always discuss risks with a doctor.

Start with the techniques that feel easiest for you. Many men see a noticeable change after a week of practice. If nothing helps after a few weeks, schedule a visit with a urologist or therapist. They can check for underlying health issues and suggest prescription options.

Remember, PE isn’t a permanent flaw. With a few adjustments, you can extend your time, enjoy sex more, and boost your confidence.